This Is What It’s Like To Say Goodbye To Your Soulmate

[Mr. Babatunde]

They'll tell you distractions are for the better. Because you just have to stop worrying too much. They're going to tell you to cut your ties and stick to the no contact rule. And this is absolute nonsense. You have had something special with him, a bond that you witness only once in a lifetime. You share a strong respect for one another. It did not end in shouting threats. It was like catching a bird in your hands and putting it gently back on its branch— soft and responsive. He still made you laugh even then; he still cared for you very dearly. You both still do.

Leaving your soulmate isn’t easy. It’s the kind of pain that has its own way of showing up. One day you’re fine, and the very next day you want to pluck your eyes out and cry like a baby.

I guess it’s okay to stay close, to hang out once in a while. The no contact rule doesn’t apply to everyone. It makes it worse sometimes. I know you hate to hear that soulmates always find their way back to each other. It’s okay to feel lost. It’s okay to take it day by day. It’s okay to take time to heal.

You used to flirt as if it were the first date every time you two went out. Some said you were like a married couple. Both of you can’t explain or find the right words to define your relationship—it has to be seen. People look at you and they know something special is going on.

And it hurts to let go. To set the other free. You drifted. But all you want is to see him happy, even if that doesn’t involve you. That’s true love. You never wanted to change him; you accepted him completely. There is no word to explain how much the loss of a soulmate shatters your soul.